Wives Submit to Your Husband Pt 3| Holy Hygge Marriage

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Richard Rohr said “Willing people let the Scriptures change them instead of using them to change others” This is what I am asking you to do here, with me, in this submission series.  To be open to how the scriptures can change you, as a wife, into a better version of what God is calling you to be and willing to allow the change to happen. To be open to His guidance for you while not thinking about how your husband needs to change. In part one of this study into the true design of submission in marriage we looked at submitting to one anotherPart 2 gave us a deeper look at what it truly means to mutually submit. Today I want to unpack the most misunderstood and misquoted scripture about submission in marriage: Wives submit to your husband.  Ephesians 5: 22-24 says “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the Savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.”

Submitting to your husband is NOT being a doormat. It does not mean it is OK for you to be pushed around, lied to, cheated on, abused or manipulated. That is not what the Father had in mind when He said wives should submit to their husbands. I believe He designed submission to be good, for both husband and wife. Everything He designed, from the beginning of time, has been good.  Submission to your husband is recognizing his authority as head of household and agreeing to come underneath that authority as his equal in the eyes of the Father Yahuah. Above all else, it is understanding that submitting to our husbands is submitting ourselves to Christ. Any resistance to our husbands is resistance to our Father.

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The world has made the word submission twisted and dirty. If you are a submissive wife then you must be weak minded, at least that is what the world wants you to believe. My friends, being a submissive wife in this world is an act of strength that comes only from the strength of God himself. It takes a lot of courage and self-control to be a submissive wife. It is not an easy route to take in a world where being self-centered is encouraged. Submissive wives are among the strongest women I know and I hold them all in high regard. I believe the Father holds a special crown for His daughters who choose submission and godly viewpoints of the marital covenant and the design He created for it.

Submission is simple. It is respect. It is respect that is both earned and unearned. Our husbands do many things that earn them respect, things we may take for granted like going to work every day to provide or taking out the trash after a long day of work. They may take a few moments to listen to our troubles or cook dinner. There are so many mundane day to day things our husbands do that deserve respect. They don’t have to do things in major ways to earn it. They don’t need to earn it at all, in all honesty, because the Father says to submit. He doesn’t say submit when he is deserving but as the broken human beings we are we look for the ways people deserve things. Believe me when I say, you can always find a reason to respect your husband. We simply need to look and recognize them. There are also days where they may not be so deserving in our eyes. It is on those days that we respect them because we respect our Father. We are in submission to the Most High and in doing so we are in submission to our husbands. On those days, instead of being angry, I challenge you to look hard for the good in your husband and if you cannot find anything due to your own anger, then look for the good in Christ. You will find plenty of reasons in Him.

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Your husband has been called to be your protector and he has a responsibility to God as the head of the house. God fearing men know this. We do not need to tell them every day. We simply need to encourage them on their journey to being the best they can be and see them the way the Father sees them. We do this by being submissive wives. There are days I can easily see the many reasons to be submissive to my husband and then there are days where I struggle. It is on those days that I ask the Father to let me see my husband the way He sees him. I ask to see the good and then I look for it. I remember the good things and slowly the things that are irritating me or hurting my feelings fade away. Those are difficult moments, but in Christ all things are possible and in Christ love always wins.

One final note, the scripture says to submit in everything. This is a big, wide open to interpretation, word. Everything. In Part 4 we will look at what this means and how to apply it to our daily walk with Christ.



One response to “Wives Submit to Your Husband Pt 3| Holy Hygge Marriage”

  1. […] that is calm, peaceful and full of love.  In Part 1 and Part 2 we looked at mutual submission, Part 3 covered wives submission to their husbands, Part 4 what God meant by everything and today we will […]


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