A crazy amazing thing happens when we get married, we become one with our spouse. Society plays it down. Society wants us to remain separate so that satan can attack us relentlessly and over come our souls. When we bond as one, as the bible says, we become a force that intertwines two god breathed souls so that they may never be broken apart. But what does becoming one really mean? Is it just sex or is it more? My friends, it is so much more than sex. An unbreakable bond is only partially created in the bedroom, it starts deep within the soul.
When we become one with our spouse we feel their pain. We feel their joy. We seek to be the light in their lives. We love them more than we love ourselves and that is why we can put aside our desires for their needs. Never will we try to hurt them and when we do we will do everything in our power to change and fix it because when we are one with our spouse everything we do to them we do to ourselves.
You see, becoming one means your spouses soul is your soul. You have come together and created a bond, the bond that the devil seeks to destroy and he will destroy it if we are not protective and consistently seeking to strengthen the bond. We cannot separate ourselves from our spouses. When they hurt, we need to hurt with them. If we created that hurt, we need to correct it. When they express their needs we need to meet them because that is what marriage is about: coming together with another in the love Yahuah created for a man and woman and selflessly living out that design. When we don’t meet our spouses needs, the devil will make sure those needs get met elsewhere and the marriage begins to fail.
By fail, I don’t necessarily mean divorce. Failures can look like pornography addictions, selfish behaviors, lonely spouses sitting in the same room with each other, work-o-holics, over spending, choosing friends over spouse. All of these things are failures in the marriage. They are open doors for the devil to come in and tear up your spouses soul. We are supposed to care deeply for our spouse and protect their souls as if they are our own.
You wouldn’t openly give your soul to the devil to play with, so why would hand over your spouses? Think deeply on that because that is the whole point of my post today. Ask yourself, and be truthful, are you protecting your spouses soul or are you breaking down their armor and letting the devil play with their emotions? The minute you say a hurtful word to your spouse, you have put a kink in their armor. The minute you neglect or ignore your spouses needs, you open them up to something or someone else meeting them. The minute you negatively criticize your spouse you open them up to shame and mental torture of being “good enough”.
This is no game my friends. Marriage is not a game. It is covenant. A deep covenant that was created by Yahuah to glorify Him in His creation. He did not just create us, He created the covenant of marriage so why do we allow society to make such a mockery of it? Why do we sit in pride in our homes while our spouse sits next to us in dire need of our affections? Why do we ignore their needs? Why do we think its OK to want them to change but we stay the same?
Friends, we really need to fight for our marriages. We cannot allow satan to break down any more covenants. We cannot allow him to torture our spouses with shame, heartache, sadness, depression, anxiety….he is the master of psychological warfare and if we are not ONE then he will divide and conquer. It is time to stand up. It is time to be ONE with our spouses. We can no longer sit in complacency on the couch watching football, lifetime,sitcoms, movies or video games. We can no longer live in pride and ego.
The time is now to look at your spouse with fresh new eyes. Look at her with the protection you give yourself. Look at him with the mercy you give yourself. When you wake up, your battle should be for the love of your spouse. An amazing thing happens when you love your spouse the way they are meant and need to be loved: all those things you want in them begin to emerge.
When your spouse feels fully loved and important to you they will automatically begin to blossom into the woman or man you want to see in front of you. Yahuah makes changes in their hearts and bodies to meet your desires when you choose to meet their needs. It all starts with you. You have to be the change and then you will see the change you seek. You see, when you follow Yahuah’s guidelines nothing can fail. Nothing.
Stand up and fight for your marriages my friends. Stand up and stand out of societal degradation of the marital covenant and be selfless in love for the spouse you chose because this isn’t a game. This is human soul and life. It is precious. Your spouse is precious. They are your crown, treat them as such.